ARCHIVE - Life after abuse

and welcome. I am new to the forum also but have found it very helpful.
I am newly out of a 25 yr marraige. I have not had many good days in the 2 months. Loads of bad nights where this forum has been great to be able to use. You must change that name, it will not match who you want to be again.
I hope you are feeling ok and look forward to hearing more about you
take care
Peaceatlast

Hi mouse yes u must change that name - u need something more positive!!
Well done 2u getting out of a 25yr relationshi. I'm not long out of a 5yr one and I can tell u its been a nightmare dealing with all the fall out, thoughts and feelings.
I can't imagine what it must b like afta 25 yrs. U must really struggle
U must b a very strong person. Fantastic that u broke free - great to hear!!
Keep posting and positive
Sending u lots of lov and hugs and welcome to the forum, god bless

Well done on getting out!

It's shocking sometimes looking back and seeing what we put up with, what crept up on us, how we dwindles to fit the space allocated us...

Know what you mean.

Time to stretch and grow now!

All the best,

Flower xxx

to you for getting out. As for being a mouse we have all been one of those at some point. The times when you couldn't voice an opinion, had to be quiet for fear of up setting him..... it goes on and on. You are not a mouse any longer, you are a strong women who has come through the other side of domestic abuse. It really takes some guts to escape.
It is now time to rebuild your life and be happy. There is a great future waiting for you. Good luck xxxx

I welcomed you on Scarlethermione's thread "Leaving husband and housing benefit" as this was the first time I saw you post. I am not sure whether you have seen my post there so I will welcome you on this thread also. I am glad you decided to tell us about your situation and I can see that you have already had some great replies.

I am glad to hear that you found the strength to leave your abusive marriage. It does take time to come to terms with an abusive relationship but with support, time will be a healer.

If you would like to talk to someone in confidence about your situation, you can contact the National Domestic Violence Helpline on 0808 2000 247. They can offer emotional support, information and can signpost you to organisations relevant to your situation.

You can also contact your local domestic violence service for support. You can find their details by clicking on the "Find a local service" link on the left hand side of this page.

Take care and keep posting.

Best wishes

Lisa