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i hope things get better. I know what it is like to have everything hurt.

Are they offering some treatment? Grab all the support you can to get back on track, lovely. We're all on your side on here.

Flower xxx

Is this soemthing that you have suffered with previously or have experienced problems with before?

My solicitor (as I think we are in suimilar boats at the moment) told me they rarely use psychological assesments anymore as they are subjective and can be greatly misinterpreted and also that magistrates don't really take much account of them these days.

keep strong xx

Dont get me bloody started hun, really really feel for you! My assessment just came back well you could have knocked me over with a feather!!! Not 1 positive thing to say social worker might as well have wrote it!!!!
long story but my ex was the risk and now its my mental health!!! they say im fantastic mum with brilliant contact with my son but because i lied about contact with ex and let him see his son they want my son adopting!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! what an absolute joke the assessment says i need therapy for 2 years and she believes i will take my ex back!! erm hello ive lost my son, had ex sent to prison twice now for talking to me and im in new non dv relationship!!!!!!!! Absolute shocking stuff they way they distort things seriously!! I really feel for you hun x
not surprised your hurting, please dont give up fight, Tell them you will get help, ask what they recommend. Do you have solicitor?

My whole case rested on this assessment and social care are now doing bloody cart wheels, my solicitor says the assessment was shocking, but just means we have to fight harder. Im also in a night mare hun, cant sleep rarely eat always thinking about my baby!
May i add LA paid 6,000 pounds for this assessment which is vague distorted and doesnt offer anything positive at all, court thought it was lengthy and offered full conclusion how ever my barrister said it didnt conclude anything!!!

Sorry for the delay I ended up falling asleep to block the pain, now I am stuck awake bad move there.

The assessment was a psychicatric which I was pinning all hopes on. I visited a psych back in 2011 right in the middle of the abuse and repeted what he told me and I did truly at that time believe what he was saying about me. I was then diagnosed with emotionally unstable personality disorder borderline. My GP has never supported this diagnosis and was rather shocked the court apointed psychaciatrist diganosed it. However he did say if I have BPD over my notes it is likely he would just go along with the diagnosis.

I have been attending therapy since November 2011 in form of a getting ready group to enter a theraputic community.

The solicitor said with the timescales laid out in his report things are not looking good. I just hope that at the next spiral I can get into the TC. I have a feeling I wont tho, they will want me to visit both the communities again and will want me in the three day a week one. I know I wont be able to commit to it I have contact four days a week, two of the days I have it twice a day once in the morning and again in the afternoon. The three day a week TC is virtually impossible. I planned in my head to go to the one day a week one, started having driving lessons to ensure I could get there and am due to take my test soon ( it was meant to be the 8th but I am to nervous so have pushed it back to September ) The next visit to the one day a week community is so far off.

I have tried for the last two weeks to speak to the group staff to explain the situation, the fact my solicitor is recommending the one day community because contact is so important. As yet they have not returned my call, I doubt very much they will have time to speak to me on Thursday either, last week they turned me away and told me to call...

I should imagine his psych assessment has come back normal, even tho I know he is far from normal with his behaviour.

I had my ex ( non abusive ) statement today, even he has lied. I don't understand why, he has our son in his care and I have already been told I won't be getting him back. There was no need to lie to try and make himself look better. This is not a game, it is not about point scoring.

I am not in the best place at the moment, I do not understand how my sister in law can keep her son when she is in a relationship with an abuser. He was only let out of prison last week. I know it is not nice to say that but that is how it is making me feel. She has been quite mean today, snappy and has left the house a mess. She knows that they could turn up at any time and then it would be down to me. They would say I am not coping even though the floor is covered with toys. Another strange thing they take my children but allow my 2 year old nephew to live with me and he is left in my care nearly every night when she walks the dog, on the odd occassion she will go to the pub.

I pay all the bills here and at the moment I am broke, I asked her to get dinner she wouldn't, wasn't hungry. It was ok for she had been out with my parents for a meal. I had nothing all day. To top it off she owes me £200.

Hi both
Have either of you spoken to the Family Rights Group? They are a charity that advise, advocate and campaign for families whose children are involved with Social Services. They may be able to offer some advice in both your cases. Take a look at their website here.

Hope they can be of some help to you both in these difficult times for you.
Keep posting
Lisa

I have been on web site for sometime now and they advise when can, unfortunately i am fighting a battle i cant win.
SS are not in to losing cases and im up against them, I have barrister and its their case against mine.
Cant believe what im going through made huge mistake by lying to social care and allowing ex to see my son.
My ex is only serving sentence, 3 meals a day, drugs on tap, and he loves it!!!!
Me ive lost our son, having assessments left right and centre, cant work struggling to pay bills and function without my son, all for 1 man!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
The price im paying is just immeasurable.

I think exactly the same as you! They are in it to win not for the child. How long into the proceedings are you what assessments are you having?

Huge hug I know how you feel