ARCHIVE - Police and the courts
I just stumbled on this forum really as I was looking to talk to people who have been in a similar situation to me.
I'm (age removed by moderator) and have a little girl with my ex who abused me. I suffered 2 years of verbal and physical abuse. From strangling me to pinching me,throwing things at me,spitting at me,trying to run me off the road, beating me while I was pregnant and splitting my lip the list goes on.... Anyway I finally left him Jan this year.
He started stalking me, harassing me, looking through my letterbox, he pushed me too far when he forced entry into my house because he thought I had a man there and he scared me (age removed by moderator) month old daughter to tears. So I went to the solicitor to get an injunction, She said best course of action was to tell the police. I decided to tell them, then an officer called me and told me my ex had previous with abuse/sexual abuse with 3 other women before me. Obviously very hard news to hear.
So that is when I decided to continue with the charges. I gave a video statement as he was also sexual abusive to me in our relationship. He is currently on bail and has admitted to one inccident where he said he "accidently" punched me but meant to hit the bed.
It is currently at the CPS and has been for over a month and I am in such limbo I hate this. I think about it all day. It's not healthy. I have had to leave my home, leave the county and had panic alarms fitted in my house.I feel like my whole life is upside down and I am doing all this while working and looking after my 1 year old.
How much longer is this going to take...?? what are your experiences with court cases?
I am so worried the case will be dropped on lack of evidence.
I have 2000 text of abuse which the police downloaded from my phone including threats.
I have 8 witness statements and 2 independent statements from neighbours who I don't know who heard him.
I have a picture of my face swollen
my friends have text saying at the time things happened what he did to me.
I called womens aid twice and I also posted throughout on another forum abot his abuse...so all that is being used against him. But will it be enough??
Sorry for such an essay, thank u so much for reading, I hope everyone is ok
Created by Theateam on 23-Jul-12 21:57 GMT
Welcome to the forum You have been so brave already and you have done so well. You have good hard evidence but it is up to the CPS to decide whether or not they have enough to prosecute. Unfortunately in the criminal justice system, the case has to proved to an extremely high standard of beyond a reasonable doubt. It seems a bit long to make you wait for a month. Is there any way you can contact the CPS and ask who is seeing to your case and ask them for an update? One of their codes of practice includes keeping the victims up to date with what is happening so you definitely have a right to ask.
Reach out for as much professional and personal support as you can. It is going to be tough, the whole process.
Have you got a safety plan in place? If not then the national domestic abuse helpline will be able to help you put one in place. You are very vulnerable at the moment and this time, is dangerous for you.
Take it easy. Rest a lot and post here when you can. When I was in court, the ladies on this forum were a rock for me. I hope we can be of some help for you too.
Sending you a hug ((((((((((((((((((((((()))))))))))))))))))))))))
Posted by Kia Kaha Wahine on 23-Jul-12 22:10 GMT
Never taken mine to court - too soft to press charges because he would never have worked again. He never has anyway, just to punish me for calling the police to him!
You're braver than I am, in other words. And the pile of evidence you have their should smother him of he walks too close and toples it.
Good luck - some others on here will have more practical tips for you. I'm sure.
Posted by Flowerchild on 23-Jul-12 22:12 GMT
It took the cps 3 months to make a decision in my case. It's normal. Agonising waiting for it, but they took the decision to prosecute and my case had less evidence than this. I really wouldn't worry. They are probably sifting through all that evidence...every single bit and organising it. xx
Posted by witsend on 23-Jul-12 22:12 GMT
And welcome to the forum. You've already had some really good advice and support from the women here so I hope you feel better and less alone. I see you've already had contact with Women's Aid, but if there's anything more we can do to help you at this time please call the helpline on 0808 2000 247, or get in touch with a local service by following the "find help locally" link to the left of this page. You do appear to have a lot of evidence so I hope you get some positive news soon about the court case.
Posted by WA Moderator on 24-Jul-12 10:16 GMT