I will not take him back

I will not take him back

I am in bed, he has done something to my back. I just hope it's a pulled muscle. He lifted me up by the throat with my legs dangiling and continuously banged my head against the wall. I felt something ''ping'' in my back. When he realised he'd done something to my back he still threatened to put the TV over my head.

I was due to go for a needle biopsy on my breast this morning, and I had to cancel because I'm in so much pain.

I will never put myself through this again. He is out of my life. He is phoning me showing concern and he just makes me sick.

He started chucking Neurofen down his throat as a suicide threat - I told him he couldnt overdose on them but paracetamol might be better.

I have taken him back again and again and all it gave was him a license to do it again - and the violence got worse, he tried to gouge my eyes out this time.

He is 6ft 2ins, I am 5ft 2ins, what defence do I have?

Can I just say I am not your ''stereotype'' abused woman? Men say I intimidate them, I am sassy and strong minded.

But I will not put myself through this again - ever!

Created by jbuckley on 3-Jul-12 12:14 GMT

stay strong

I'm hoping u feel better. I would just like to say get all the help u can, involve the police if u feel up to it, n keep urself safe above all other things. Lots of love TC XXX

Posted by tinyclanger on 3-Jul-12 13:19 GMT

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Hi

I'm really sorry that you have been so severely assaulted, and maybe you need to get some medical attention;it would also be evidence of the abuse.
I don't think anyone is a stereotype of an abused person, that's not how it works. Women of all personalities and types are subject to domestic abuse and find it hard to conceive that it could have happened to them.
Please call the helpline on 0808 2000 247 to access support at this early stage in the process of breaking away from him.
Take care

Lisa

Posted by WA Moderator on 3-Jul-12 15:34 GMT

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sending some love

I'm so sorry to read this, what he has done is horrific. It suprised me when I started telling people about my abuse how people were suprised as apparently I appear pretty strong and self confident, it was all just a mask and over compensation in my case to try and make myself and everyone else believe I was ok. Having met more and more women who have been abused there is no 'type', and it's scary just how many women who appear so strong are going through hell behind closed doors.

I really hope you inform the police, and stay out, you are at a huge amount of risk with someone so incredibly violent.

*hugs* and love, stay strong against him

xx

Posted by hwsyfbiiw on 3-Jul-12 16:18 GMT

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i hope you are ok hun,

but really you need to get looked at to make sure it's not something more serious. I know this is prob on deaf ears - because i've been there. I don't fit your preconceived (and mine b4 this) of an 'abused women'. Tisn't like that. We - you are just people - from all walks of life. There is no stereotype, only other peoples and for a while your own.
I felt the same way so feel able to comment quite honestly.
I was guilty of thinking it didn't happen to people like me.
Stay safe hun - and strong.
Take care and even though you'll profess you don't need it i'm sending you a hug, coz no matter who/what you are it hurts - like hell.
Xx

Posted by Chloe on 3-Jul-12 21:30 GMT

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