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its probably a silly question, i dont know where to begin and dont know what services they can offer me, or how long it takes, im alone, i feel weak, vulnerable, and have no where to turn x
Created by anxiousann on 24-Jun-12 23:32 GMT
Basically WA are there to help with everything
Just give them a call and they usually come round your house and take a history of what's happend.
Then you will be assigned a dv support worker who will help you any way you need, mine attends the gp with me, toddler groups, hospital appointments, solicitors and came to court and held my hand through the proceedings
She also got me counselling which I needed within a couple of months and has transformed my life
She's at the end of the phone whenever having a wobbly day just to talk
WA also do a thing called peer support once a month in my area which is fab! You go along meet other ladies like us get your nails done etc etc
Honestly just pick up the phone huni their support is amazing and really literally saved my life!
We are all here too whenever you need a friend
Lots of love and Goodluck
Posted by Beau on 24-Jun-12 23:40 GMT
reading that has just made me cry with relief, i feel so low, i am over tired as im not sleeping well which will make me even more emotional, do you know if i can talk to them in confidence? they wont make me call the police if i dont want to? x
Posted by anxiousann on 24-Jun-12 23:45 GMT
Different WAs around the country offer different services eg some do outreach and some also do outreach specifically for children. Some offer the Freedom Programme and some offer The Recovery Toolkit Programme. But, they are not the only DV support service - You have Worth and Rise and a whole host of different ones. WA is an excellent place but keep in mind that there is a lot of professional support out there. At the basis of all the services, is confidentiality (except in child protection circumstances - because they have to safe guard children) and that you make your own decisions.
Many of us leave many times before the final time. Many of us have many many things that need closure or resolution before we leave and even when we leave, on another level it is the start of something else.
But, the time passes and we eventually get into a better space and in time, there is healing and recovery.
It is difficult. It is a rollercoaster. But we get there in the end.
You are very brave for reaching out. Wishing you the best of luck and keep posting
Posted by Kia Kaha Wahine on 25-Jun-12 00:05 GMT
Of course they will not make you go to the police.
No one can make you report anything you don't want to.
It is all confidential unless they feel there is a risk to the safety or welfare of a child or yourself (Lisa please clarify for me) Ie you were going to hurt yourself then they have a duty of care to intervene
Honestly huni just pick up the phone and make the call, they are so great and understanding the support workers just get it , you k ow the way other professionals don't even grasp it.
Mine had her own experience before working for WA which made her even better!
I can't praise them enough to you Hun, WA literally saved my life, I would probably still be putting up with it if I hadn't made that call.
I started by calling the helpline and then eventually gave my details tonwa in my area, there was no pressure at all to do so just a listening ear at the other end of the phone.
Remember WA are there to help you, to discover what you need and to help you to achieve that whether it be to stay or to leave your abuser.
And to help you take back control and put you on the right road to recovery
We are all here also
Until you find the strength to call
We are always here
Posted by Beau on 25-Jun-12 00:15 GMT
i am aware that any service has a duty to intervene then, luckily my son isnt at risk, thank god he is not his son hence i do not have to have contact with this man, i dont feel suicidal just really really low, like i want to escape it all by running away, i would love to go away for a while where no-one knows me, where i'd feel safe, maybe some counselling would be beneficial to me, as i have no-one i can talk to. I feel like ive bored to death the few friends i have left. i will make the call tomorrow, i sense i may break down tho while talking about it tho, thank you so much for your support, im so gratefull to everyone on here for your words of wisdom, i wish i knew about this site earlier,
much love xxx
Posted by anxiousann on 25-Jun-12 00:44 GMT