ARCHIVE - Police and the courts

but saadly this is the life of the family courts. Apart from the criminal case which is pending I have been in and out of the family courts for the past two years and we haven't even got to the fact finding stage! It has been one long ajornment, mine due to my ex shouting at the judge, refusing to come in unless he can tape the whole process. Just a whole heap of madness and the judges have bent over backwards. In that time the kids havent seen him, I haven't seen cafcass, though spoken to them and they are refusing to go any further without a factfinding because of the safety risk(which is great) but it is a draining experience. The only good thing now if he is found not guilty and I have to go back to family courts by the time factfinding etc is done, kids are apparently the magic number so they have a real big say in contact(they dont wissh to see him) so time has been on my side but sometimes you do want to get it over and done with I know. But this seems to be the norm for family courts. Long waits between hearings and dragging on for 18months to two years. terrible unless you need to stall for time. So really there isnt a lot to be done apart from grit your teeth and realise this happens to a lot of people because of the sheer disorganisation of the family courts etc. So a big sorry to you but it is again yet another obstacle to climb but as I say keep breathing and heading for the light.xx

There is a certain application - not sure what it is called - for you to make that makes sure that any time he wants to make an application, he has to seek permission from the courts first - it is to stop a person bringing you back to court 80 times just for fun.
Look into it and good luck!
xxx

I shall
Lots a love
Beau
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but I'm more than happy for it to take as long as it can. Yeah, it's annoying that I'm in and out of court coz my ex is an a-hole, but the longer it takes the longer he isn't seeing the kids (they don't want to) and they are getting older so have more say as each day goes by. So, apart from the hassle, I'm actually getting what me and the kids want by default. He thinks by being awkward he in inconveniencing me, but actually he's doing me a favour!

Thats a great way of looking at it!
I'm going to think of it like that from now on my glass is half full
Lots a love
Beau
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Sorry end of the rainbow - but your post has made me laugh. Shouting at the judge! Refusing to enter unless he can tape it????Ha ha ha!
Shooooooweeeee! He is a beauty!
xxx

This will be my first post so not sure what to write but thought should reply to your post as have been through this system already.
My ex was very abusive mentally and physically I was with him for a number of years until he one day walked away I have been in a court case with him trying to get access to my child for years[dates removed by moderator] where at the end of the court case the judge refused any direct contact to be had between my ex and my child as my child was in danger (caffcass I found tho were very helpfull and were a big part of the case and in saying she was at risk of being near him) anyway a year has gone past and apart from stupid things like him filming us at a shop one day I have not seen him today I have got a letter saying he has reapplied to the court for access again so Evan tho over a year ago he was refused he is reapplying the whole legal court action takes years sometimes and as you can tell sometimes Evan after the case has been closed it can happen again

I have been having a very distraught day coming to terms with having t go through this whole court proceedings again but I so pose its going to be like this now untill my child is [age removed by moderator] :-( I feel it will be never ending Evan tho my child does not want to see him he is just thinking about himself not what this is doing to my child :-(