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aw man hes rang again....

so im sat njoying food properly for first time since he left n he rings again... the usual i love you etc then when i laughed (in shock at his ruthlessness i think) he said dont believe me then proceeded to tell me his mum wanted to talk to me... lol a (removed by moderator) man getting mummy to do his work for him lol!! i told him to do one...dya know a sorry didnt pass his lips/ that hurt more than a slap in the face! apparently his mum needs him all of a sudden now hes looking at a long time away... i cant wait for this call!! lol god am fuming time i told police but then i feel like am making it worse for him!! why cant i get out of this mind set where i feel responsible for his mistakes????? aaaaggghhh im so confused hurt n angry right now!! i had just started to feel a little better aswell...:@
 

Created by yorvikprincess on 18-Jun-12 22:31 GMT

I had just started to feel a little better as well

Which is why you are doing the right thing by telling the police. You have a right to feel better, you have a right to eat your dinner in peace, you have a right to not be hassled by this man. His calls are designed to put you off balance and to get you thinking about him, to feel bad.
If he calls again, don't answer or if you can't see the number and answer put the phone down immediately, don't get into a conversation with him. Take control sweetie. You did well to tell the police - it was exactly the right thing to do.
Xxx

Posted by Athena on 18-Jun-12 22:45 GMT

i havent rang them yet to report it...

i am going to tmoro i just didnt want the hassle of the police round tonight my son was visiting... there was a part of me that wanted to hear the word sorry...but i guess thats too much to ask.. his mum doesnt need his help its rubbish all of it...im so off to see him burn in hell thats a new low using his disabled mum..

Posted by yorvikprincess on 18-Jun-12 22:50 GMT

Grrrr

That is low. Goes to show how desperate he is.
I dream that one day I will bump into mine and he will fall to his knees, weep and say sorry. That's all I have wanted to hear but my counsellor helped me accept that I'll never get an apology and even if I did would I believe it? ... After the lies I heard in court no I wouldn't. So I stopped chasing the fantasy and got on with my life and it's going well so far. Being filmed tomorrow for a well known tv show where I work, got some consultancy work for a uni too. My life's changing in a positive way and I'm doing this without him! Feels good : )
Xxx

Posted by Athena on 18-Jun-12 22:59 GMT

well done!!

i cant wait til my lifes back on track n courts over with, yes you are right i wont believe a word that ever comes out of his mouth and yep i bet he lies like crazy in court too, i really hope he is that stupid to go not guilty then that gives me more time to find myself and heal...i got so many emotions running round my head again i could scream its all so confusing...

Posted by yorvikprincess on 18-Jun-12 23:05 GMT