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This guy with just the one thing on his mind sounds like the sort of trouble you really don't need right now. If he was offering dinner and friendship, well that's one thing. But it sounds more like dinner and then you fighting him off!

One of us on here was raped on a first date after leaving her abuser - when people know your history they do weird things sometimes. t happens to new widows too, apparently. The freaky men move in because you seem vulnerable and they get a buzz from trying it on.

Whatever you decide to do (and why shouldn't you have a social life?!) take extreme care and don't put yourself in a vulnerable position. Think how it might be played in court, too.

Flower x (being the voice of doom again)

Well at first he was being really sweet you know booking a tanks asking to pick me up, then the more we spoke the more he was going down the line of innuendo.
I've known him a good few years but only to see and say hi to.
He said he's liked me for ages, but I was always in a relationship
Maybe I'm being totally paranoid but I just don't get the way he's pushing the sex thing so quickly.
Hes got a bit of a rep as a ladies man
And originally comes from my danger area but mOved away at least two years ago just happened he's living near me and got in touch
So it's not like he's aware of the abuse
And I haven't told him
But somehow I felt kinda damaged whilst I was talking to him, and felt paranoid
Maybe it's because on one level I'm still petrified my ex could find out and hurt me.
Maybe it's the moving on I'm scared of
Maybe it's just men.
I'm not meeting him alone (if I go) my friend is going to be in town so I can leave easily if I feel funny
I don't know
It's embarrassing that a date, a normal thing could cause such angst to me.

Also had to turn down a very good job offer as its too close to
My danger area today

Good jobs are few and far between. God men even more so!

If he's talking dirty when he's only just asking you out, whatever will he think you're saying yes to if you go?!

I can only say listen to your gut instinct and don't be swayed by what anyone else thinks or wants you to do. If it feels right, or feels wrong, follow the feeling.

The friend sounds like a good idea!

Stay safe,

Flower x

I've decided not to go
Think this guy has a real cheek! I'm not interested in meeting someone who's only after one thing. My ex made md feel like an object for long enough.
The thought of being intimate with anyone again makes me cry
I still feel kinda owned if that makes any sense?
My ex abused me sexually and the innuendo with this guy is making me feel panicky stick to your gut someone said, so I'm going to and just think of an excuse to get myself out of it and just go to meet my friends instead
I'm not into casual sex never have been and the kinda things this guy is asking I'd only share with an intimate partner.
Mind made up I'm 100 per cent not going!

Thanks Flower
Lots a love Always
Beau
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he did sound a bit of a sleeze! and not the kind of guy that someone as thoughtful and caring as you needs in your life right now. I don't think there is anything wrong with dating, but to me it seems to some people 'going on a date' means casual sex instead of having fun and getting to know someone.
i'm sorry to hear about your job too - i know it's not fair that you have had to turn it down. But, on the positive side - it's great that in this current climate that you were offered the job after no doubt lots of applications. Fingers crossed that you will get something else soon xxxxxxxxxxxxx

We all I can do is keep trying
I know I don't get this whole sleeping around thing?!
I have to be in a relationship before I can even dream of doing that!
God I'd probably freak our if someone tried to kiss me right now.
At first I thought that guy just wanted to get to know me, it all started off so well, nevermind, that kinda attention is rather do without! Lol
Lots a love
Beau
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best decision defo!!!
He sounds like trouble.Gotta go get kids now. I could advise u on new relationships, I got myself a genuine decent man. He would never ever ever use inuendo like that. Sorry uve been avin bother with the wicked sisters again. I dont speak to mine anymore, not worth it.
Catch up soon
take care
Angel
xxx

it will never let you down well done you

awokenX