ARCHIVE - Life after abuse

you will get it back, Beau. You will get through this.

So many of the things that made up your nice life will be yours again - not all, of course, (thinking of your lovely mum) and it won't be exactly the same but it will be good.

Hang in there, this will pass.

Flower x

You will get it back Beau, you just need a bit of time and lots of tlc

Five years ago I was in a complete mess, severely depressed and under the care of the community mental health team. My once successful career was in tatters because I was too depressed to function. A year later, I started divorce proceedings against my abusive ex husband of whom I was terrified. I changed career because I thought I was finished in my former profession. Five months after leaving my ex, I fell in love with another man who also turned out to be abusive and who subjected me to a vicious attack nearly a year ago. This left me extremely traumatised and I felt unable to function properly for several months afterwards.

Thankfully I had fantastic support from my local DV service. With their support, a Pattern Changing course and lots of therapy including a course of CBT, I feel a different person compared with how I was last year - or even five years ago when I'd seriously hit rock bottom. And I now have a fab new job in my former career which I thought was finished.

You will get through it - you will get your life back, but you may have to bump along the bottom for a while before you start rising up again. But you will come through. Have faith in yourself. You can do it.

Hugs and strength,
Ash xxx

You are such a courageous,inspiring lady. I just wish you could realise this.you have shown me such great support and kindness.wishing I could take ur pain away.all my love Katherine x

I'm trying
I really am
Can't believe it's gone from the isotope way I felt last week to this!

It's because I feel physically unwell I think, haven't been able to eat properly since I had the op beginning of may.
And dr made me feel like s**t too

I'm trying
I won't give up
Just wish I could stop these tears falling
Hate it
Feel so weak and pathetic

Keep going back to the doctor! That's what they're there for. You'll have to be thick-skinned, but we've had all the training for that, I reckon.

Years ago I had an ectopic pregnancy (mod if you have to Lisa!) and it was only because I kept going back and insisting something was wrong that I got the surgery I needed in time and lived!

Hang in there and pester until they listen.

Oh, and Beau? Try to eat something small and nutritious. You'll feel wretched if your blood sugar is low. Have you got a banana? And a nice cup of tea...

Flower X

Feels like I have to fight for everything
I can't face going back to dr
Just got a number for another one in the area which is meant to be good off the pharmacist going to see if they taking patients
Everything is just so hard for me
It kills me inside that he's still responsibility free running around playing the victim
Not even caring or realising the damage he's caused
He's so evil

Also I can't eat cos it comes straight back out
I just want my mum so bad.
Only thing stopping me is my kids
Is this how rock bottom feels???
My whole body aches
Just wana evaporate Can't keep fighting the People that are meant to help