ARCHIVE - Police and the courts
hi, my ex pled not guilty to all his charges and is up for trial in 4 weeks. i knew this would happen - anything to prolong the agony he is causing us. He had bail conditions to not even enter my street and i got a phone call from the procurators office to tell me he had made a not guilty plea and he would go to trial - i was also told that bail conditions would continue. today i saw him just round the corner from my home - visiting his parents - their back garden backs onto mine and my child goes around their visiting a friend. i was so shocked and scared that i just drove to my local police station rather than go in the house. they phoned someone and were told that bail conditions had been altered slightly - he simply can't drive past my home but he can be at his parents as long as he hasnt gone past my house ! i came home and actually vomitted . i had begun to feel safe at home and even started to relax a little and enjoy sitting in the garden - the rest of today i sat in the house and didnt even go out to hang out the washing. i phoned my local WA and they ckecked with the Domestic abuse unit - who say that they have no changes to bail on their system - i also phoned the Procurators office and they say there has been no recorded change either. what do i do ? who is right ? i have avoided the problem of letting my child out to play for tonight - it will be terrifying for her to 'bump' into him - we had just begun to relax a little and now this. help - advice needed please.
Created by littleone21 on 20-Apr-12 22:28 GMT
Exactly who said that the bail conditions have change???? if the DAU and im assuming the prosecutors ofice have said that the bail conditions have not changed i would contact the police again. did you tell the proscutors office what happened? have you let your solicitor no? doesnt sound right to me. call the police again tell them what you've been told nad find out exactly who told you it had changed. He's not gonig to admit hes guilty that would mean admiting what kind of person he is and they dont like doing that, going through the court process to hun. its like living a nightmare but you should not have to feel like a prisoner in your own home i did that for over 7 months and had to flee the area in the end. call your solicitor first thing on monday morning to xxxx stay strong and safe xx
Posted by crazychick on 21-Apr-12 10:18 GMT
it was the police who phoned someone while i was at the station - but i dont know who. i have e mailed the prosecutors office to ask for it to be checked and explain what has happened. the local police have been great and are going by the house lots but i feel so stupid if i make a fuss and so embarrassed at being so upset. i cant afford a solicitor - seems that being a skint student with no maintenance payments from him means i have too much disposable income - i would need to contribute the first £2000 of costs !! the police have told me that i can ask the court at trial to grant a restraining order and that wouldnt cost me . i cant even think about what will happen at court - i threw up just seeing him near the house - how on earth am i going to manage to go to court ? i dont know how anyone manages to get though this. seems he still controls my life and i cant see an end to it - im sure i just failed my exams - yet i was getting good marks before. i know he is pushing all the boundaries right now and will keep doing it until court - i just hope that he messes up and gets taken back into custody and i we can get some peace at last for a while. i hope the prosecutor decides to keep bail as it was - i just need some breathing space and him being so near is awful for us. thanks for your advice - i wish you all the very best xxx
Posted by littleone21 on 22-Apr-12 15:15 GMT