ARCHIVE - Leaving an abusive relationship

Hi guys

Just need to put my thoughts down on "paper". Feeling a bit confused today. I know that I need to leave. I am still trying to wrap my head around it and to make a plan that is right for me. Ever since I have been standing up for the kds and telking him that he has no right to ever lift his hands to my eldest hes kind of not doing it anymore. Its like whenever he is naughty its his first reaction to smack his bum. I still think its wrong. I dont think its right to lift your hands to your son at least once a day. I also dont think he controls himself that well when I am not around. I know he cant because it is what comes natural to him.

I seeked some councelling through my works councelling service but they can only provide over the phone councelling and Im sorry but Id like to talk to someobe face to face. I have decided that I am going to contact my local dv service so that I can chat to a person. When I did talk to over the phone councellor she told me that our last incident was very serious not just for me, but also for my baby who was in his arms while he was choking me. This has given me new perspective. I would never let anyone hurt my babies so I know that I have to do sonething.

My husband is going to get some councelling but I think the truth is that we wont be safe for a while as the councelling wont help straight away.

Just needed to get that all out. I will go and speak to my local dv people.